I personally hate virgins and avoid them at all costs. Learned the hard way. I knew a couple that did everything but vaginal penetration for 3 years. I know a goldstar lesbian. I once witnessed a girl paricipating in a drunk group sex with 5 men. It is a purely social construct, a remnant of patriarchal concept where a woman was property of the family.
Why is virginity so important to you?
Why is virginity so important to you? - Ask the Guys - WaitingTillMarriage
And this ties into what is known as the sexual double standard: Women are shamed for having sex and men are rewarded for it. The idea of your first penis-in-vagina sexual encounter being something significant and life altering well, for women anyway has origins in women being considered property. That is to say, virginity is a social construction that came about because of the commodification of women. Since women were and sometimes still are considered property, when they got married, they were passed on to their husbands from their fathers. You know the whole father-walks-his-daughter-down-the-aisle tradition?
Virginity: A Very Personal Decision
The concept of virginity was introduced during the Neolithic Era, when proving paternity by refraining from intercourse gave women access to shelter, food, and goods. Non-virgins were typically seen as unmarriageable and often forced into prostitution. The construction of virginity is tied to the commodification of the female body and is still used as a weapon of shame and control. Dreaded or desired or even demanded by the male, virginity is the highest form of feminine mystery. The contradiction between women being looked down upon for being virgins and for not being virgins at different points in history in different places represents the struggle women face to both be chaste and not.
Started by whatsername , July 25, I've been wondering this. I have some reasons, but why is it that to some of you non-virginity is a deal breaker? Virginity is important to me because it shows that she is intelligent and thoughtful enough to understand that sex is important, and that she would save herself for one person, the person that means the most to her. It show that she, like me has been thinking about her future spouse and cares about them even though she doesn't know them yet.